Here are 4 expert-approved actions to take when your man has cheated. It comes naturally. As a young person, I know how painful it is to not know which adults you can trust. He is a Godly man etc. But she lived far away and I just did not allow it to consume my thoughts. He tells me he has not done anything with them and so on. If youre confused about whether your husband is lying about cheating, then you need to believe his ACTIONS over his words. I have come to realize he is a weak pathetic person who cant build any trust in his marriage and frequently puts our marriage on the line for a piece of tail and to get his ego stroked. It was at a horrendous time too when Is just been dealt another loss! Im not doing anything, but wonder if he is again. He is remorseful at hurting me and our marriage. AND I LET THEM..this is crucial. They found call logs, text messages and social media chats. Dont waste your time in a bad relationship. If you need support or encouragement, let me know. Often, their refusal to just show some truthfulness and integrity is what actually makes their situation worse - not their silence. Witch makes me think if hes having a affair that its not physical but emotional. and leaves office at 5.20 to 5.40 somtimes early . But my trust for him is gone, and so is the beautiful relationship I thought we had. I told him I dont send those kind of things to my guy friends. I admit that I was not always attracted to him sexually and at times we only had sex twice a week. After a year we had a car accident together and hospitalised and you know what his visitor majority was girls every day i was told by the girl that use to stay with him in the house that is only ladies come visisting him. All I can do is give you a few things to think about, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or friend that you trust. Ever since I was pregnant with my first child, he has called me horrible names like whore and slut. He admitted he deleted the emails as they came in. He even told me that he thought she was actually pregnant unless I wouldnt have known. Check the banking statement of your husband. I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts. Is it even possible to have him fall in love with me again, or should I leave and give up on him ever loving me again? And when I confront him, he said its not true and he never sent any of those messages. It is possible to rebuild your marriage after cheating, but its just so heartbreaking. Chris if you are 4 out of 5 of these things then perhaps you need to work on yourself and be more compassionate and understanding of the confusing mixed signals you are sending your wife. Often when a husband cheats on us, we can feel bad about our bodies, as if we werent attractive enough for him this should never be the case! If you are not married and you know he is cheating dont marry him, have sex with him, or countinue dating him that is stupid. Since then hes been super nice and sweet and my house is always clean. Dont know if that makes a difference but Ive searched high and low. My oldest just had surgery and my husband and I stayed with him at the hospital. So, do you want to live with your husband the way he is right now? Everything I ever believed in has been smashed to pieces. It will not get better. Im in tears typing this out because I have so much pain and I have no true compassion from him. Talking about his sex life, his past relationships and this is all with strangers. If he is involved with someone the investigator will find out within the first week which means you wont have to shell out a lot of money. Again Im 8 months pregnant he claims to be sorry. He would always tells me hes always tired. Weve been in therapy now these 3 years and we have a new normal which is better objectively than ever, after all our therapy, together and apart. You never really stated just how you feel though so I cannot be sure. I have chewed my nails to bits over this issue, because I havent the tiniest clue how to approach this situation. This is a treatable disease but I cant chance him cheating again and catching something that is not I have to agree with you there. The road to mistrust started there and a year later I still dont trust them. This is TMI, but he had an idea on a new way I could give him oral sex. He gets very defensive when i bring anything up. But he constantly lies to me and i know he does even when i catch him and he knows he has been caught he finds away to turn it around and make me look like the bad guy. And i have to say she is little shady. I have to show every sign of happiness towards him or he will try to make me feel bad. Im 27 and married 7 years, have 3 young children (6,4 &3). For some reason knowing that it might be more emotional hurts more. Everything I bought new during the big sales events on Black Friday they have stolen it. We are not yet divorced, but we are apart . But, none of this means that your husband is cheating. Now he is back in our lives me and my three children. I found an itinerary for a king sized suite for two at a hotel in our city. He slowly stopped talking to her so much and I thought things where getting better but then it seemed like out of the blue he broke up with me. I applaud you for even. He says, if Im going to treat him like crap then hes not going to do anything for me. At least seven more affairs. Its just sex for my husband. I have since uncovered lots of other information which proves him and her are guilty as charged! In nov. Its pathetic and sad. I couldnt leave them and he changed his story the next day. This will also give you the opportunity to reflect on anything you might have changed about your marriage if you had a second chance. When furloughed , wow eye opener i got. If you think hes cheating.HE IS!!!!! Help knowing when to break up, so you can find a healthy relationship. Living in the same house , sleeping in separate rooms . His answer? Hello my husband and I have been together for 12 years married for 6. Well I didnt like that one bit mostly because I knew she was his ex and I just never felt comfortable with it, and no matter what I said or did he would still talk and text her, I told him that I felt like he was disrespecting me which he would shrug at. He is cheating,so Am I. I need out. I think they have a better handle on whats going on than I ever could (because they know you!). Very few right things are easy and fun. Some men dont care about their child but still ask for custody. Thinking & working my mind to mush. About 3 months ago(2015) on a Thursday morning at 7:50am in the morning my husbands cell phone rang while we were being intimate. He also called me while I was at work asking me when I would be home, I suspect she came to our house that day before I got home. They had communicated a couple of times because shes a drama queen and needed to make a production about telling him she was getting married and when she got pregnant. Before you learn how to confront a cheater, prepare yourself for the obvious: The majority of cheating spouses will deny-deny-deny cheating until they are blue in the face. How she would love to believe it is all in her head. We'd just come back from visiting my parents with our five-year-old son, Jamie. Even if caught red handed, they'll continue to lie and minimise. He was being very weird about it. At least if you want something exclusive with this man. I have a boyfriend who i love dearly. I just recently went on my husbands app purchases and found multiple free text and calling apps that he has downloaded and a flirty emoji app that he had downloaded. He says it was only sex never went out or talked about anything else but work, since she went to his company to make a project and that was how they met each other, then he finished the affair. She lives in a different state and I dont suspect physical cheating, but I do worry about emotional cheating. I know now he runs around with other women too behind his wifes back! There are some really interesting tips and ideas for how to know if your husband is cheating in the book I cite. And when I got pregnant last year, the email communication increased and my husband actually went off to him home town to meet this woman. Where do I get the phone tracker? This should just be for peace of mind, but its essential you catch any infections that could interfere with your ability to have children later on. This happened to a friend of mine recently and she waned to know what to do. It takes courage and strength to be honest about your marriage, especially if you suspect your husband is cheating and lying to you about his affair. The marriage isnt working and youre not compatible. If you think your husband is cheating, youre picking up on important subconscious clues. We sorted it and move on, he got a new job and the lies are back but this time he lied about a business trip and who he went with. He didnt answer any of my calls nor did he return my calls as he usually does. Scientists are studying a cheating gene, which involves decreased levels of vasopressin. I want to trust him.. and I dont have any real evidence of any kind of infidelity I read the signs of a husband cheating, and he doesnt really exhibit any of these.. if anything, hes hyper-sexual with me, and always has been. As a christian you should tell the truth and who know the truth may set eveyone free and you can have him. I dont know what to do? So we know each other very well. She was shocked, it stopped for a while. So is he cheating? We do have an 8 month old baby boy btw. You have to let him go, he will never change. He denyed, cried, begged, pleaded. Tonight I literally felt sick to my stomach because he wont even sit by me or look me in the eye. It doesnt seem likely that theyd both make up this stuff, just for the fun of it. Help? I used to be petite and 105 pounds after my first daughter I gained almost 100 pounds. The email said meet me in the gym at 12.15..you own me a pilates class. She only comes around when he is there and I found out he called her phone and was on there for almost and hour. I checked his phone and under the nameJelly was a ton of disturbing messages and pictures! Believe me miss lady you deserve all types of happiness especially in a relationship. My gut feeling has never lied or been un true in the past I believe in the 15 years there has been at least 5 please help Im very desperate to have closer Ive never stayed with a cheater but hes slick I could never catch him. My husband was talking to other women and lying to me. In June 2015, he did not come home one night. I have been married for 3yrs now, i love my husband so much dat i can even kill any woman dat come close 2 him. He works as a sales agent with an auto insurance and gets home anywhere between 6:30-8:30 at night but.starts his shift at 9am every morning. He even went as far as to tell me that he wants a DNA test to make sure that the baby is his. So this time i did snoop. 6 Tips, When Your Life Feels Empty and Meaningless Without Love. Ive had more issues with him with other women also. He did it once after a business trip, and another time when he stayed at work late. Im constantly thinking he is cheating almost every minutethere was a time when a condom was missing and I called him out on it and he brought it back saying he was embarressed to tell me that he sometimes m****ates in the car while he watches on his phone or videos and doesnt want to make a mess on his pants and go into work. The guys a jerk. May you find guidance and support from other people who have traveled a similar road, who can help you make the right choices about your future. His friend doesnt even live close to us. Are you wondering how to react - or even if youll ever recover from the news? Not you & who ever catches his eye! Vickie- Its a shame you have to endure thisbut I think you are putting yourself through Hell. Be prepared for lies, although if he wants to save his marriage, he should be prepared to tell you the whole truth. There were three calls and he said he only called her once. Please raise that precious baby in a healthy environment!!! I dont use it as a substitute but as a supplement or enhancer. And it happened that very night, he was out working late, not even coming home for dinner. Im done!. I confronted her and him with the email and they claimed it was a big joke. It may give you fresh insight into your relationship.and yourself. Give a counselor a call you may need only an hour to talk things through and get some clarity. I screamed at him why? Work is work when he is there and he worked dang hard at his job. I just want out of all things lies and cheating. We still had feelings for each other. And ive made a couple more errors since then with other BFs. I want to run away. You are worthy of better!! I accidentally stumbled across some updates. That was a year ago. pls help! I come from a difference race. He always treated me like a princess, and like I was the most incredible thing thatd happened too him. There were too many coincidental and odd things that happened in the short space of 4 months when I had cancer. One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. My Husband went out to a party of his ex girlfriend. if not ask your self that question is he realy commited to you ? But this is about you, not him. when i finish the coursce i went back to my town he come to my flat telling me lot of stories which i did not believe him couse was not having trust on him. As, the more you bottle up your feelings, the more likely you are to snap and have a breakdown which is far from what you need at the moment. Sorry this is long but i have no idea what to do, im scared he is cheating on me even if it is just txt messgaes. So, although my husband has extra work, he does have extra help. Confronting a cheating spouse without doing some prep work often leads to negative outcomesconstant denials, changing stories and confusion . I dont trust him anymore. Well I broke it to him that if we are going to work he cannot hurt me anymore because if he does I will walk out and he can never get me back. That day I kicked him out only to beg him to stay. NARCISSUS I didnt even know what that word meant until I Googled it. I thought we were okay. God bless! But I believe that in reality monogamy is unnatural for humans. I let it go on. Karen, I really think you need to ask him about his odd behavior. Is it unfortunate? Except his tell tale previous behavior of .only when Im vocally upset. We started dating other people for about 2 years. If I ever feel like hes cheating on me I ask him if he is and he says no, that I am his one and only. Why would he have pictures of another woman hidden in his computer? He told me that she liked the idea that she could just pull a string and he woukd come running. That you are nuts? Hey anonymous, pretty sure thats my husband your venting about. (Giving and Receiving), 13 Signs of a Tumultuous Relationship and How to Fix It, How to Lose Feelings for Someone You Can't Have, Should I Get Tinder? CHEATING!!!!!! Could he have Aspergers Syndrome? and as far as i know with this one, ony just talking on facebook and on texts. Your marriage is sacred, and when your husband chooses to violate it, it leaves you feeling all kinds of emotions. You deserve this break to clear your head because while you are there you will go crazy trying to figure out why this and why that when no answer really seems plausible. Thank you for sharing your experience here, with us. He has had a phone relationship. There is hope. Don't get drawn into doing stuff you're not comfortable with. So, you need to decide if you want to try to save your marriage by yourself. Again, the evidence screams cheating, but I just don't get how he could let us get divorced and just not admit it. When I clicked on the mouse of the computer, to my total shock and disgust, there was a live porn chat on my screen. Everything the exwife told me about her husband and this woman is happenning to me now .Is there anyway I can get this man to leave me and move in with this woman, My husband paid lobola for me, but we have not finilised the traditional ceremony, but he is seeing his snons mother behind my back, Hi Im going through enough with my life as well Ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 years now he always told me he loved me an did almost anything for me then i found out he was married an now have a baby on the way i been involved with him for to long now i dont no what to do i no i need to call the quits but how someone help please. That is why part of me wants to believe he's innocent. I was able to read those because I knew his password. Good luck xxx. I feel like I cant win here. 6) Two weeks ago, I found numerous pictures of women in his photos on his iPhone to which he responded those women are not a threat. I dont want to wake up to anymore pain that they think is fun and games. If you think i should stay and try to make this work let me know.. I know this because I caught him making out with a woman in his car outside a bar 2 years ago. You can be OK with or without him. PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH NOT TO LET YOURSELF BE WALKED ALL OVER!!! At this point my Husband did not mind. I thought to myself this is it, this proves to me that I am his one and only, the only woman he wants. Its not only in the nature of man to have multiple partners. Please note I consider this guy as a very good friend & Id rather keep the friendship & risk the friendship as well if thats what it takes, than let him get involved with me for the wrong reasons from his perspective if truly wants to work it out with his wife. You also cant guarantee that you can trust your husband forever. I confronted him that morning, he was still in bed. I found the texts and my world collapsed! I have been in the same relationship for over 16 years we have 3 children together 16, 11, and 6. Help someone. I hinted toward it a few times and then he finally realized what I was getting at. Instead, remove yourself from the situation. He said hes faithful to me. They say nothing happens, but the actions and lack of sex and emotions says it all! He has destroyed all the trust I ever had in us as a couple and him as my husband. Why must someone always search for clues? Not to walk away thinking what if i was wrong, did I just give up. Hi, im mindy im 19 and a newlywed we have been married for 3 months now, during the short period of time there has been phone calls from girls From chat lines and hes lied to me about this one girl on Facebook sayin shes a lesbian but yet he messages her saying whats up wit ur sexy a$$? Be careful with your heart honey. DO NOT be afraid to stand up for yourself or you may find yourself an old woman being cheated on and lied to and those are our golden years do not let him do you like that girlfrend :). I fully explained what I expected from our relationship and the balance of friends and romance time. He just blames it on stress with work. He ignored me to continue his game. Worst Things to Do When You Dont Trust Your Husband. May you accept your husband and marriage for what it is whether its divorce or working through things as a reunited couple. I trusted him over and over I believed him and trusted him, but now I dont buy it anymore. My husband worked for a female boss in 2007-2010 during the economic crisis, the company suffered huge financial loss, and she begged him to stay on but stopped paying him. My husband and I have been together for 9years and married for 5years, we have a beautiful daughter together and I am currently pregnant. We hung out that night and became friends. Its time you reassess yourself and really determine your self worth. http://www.marketwatch.com/story/5-apps-for-spying-on-your-spouse-2014-03-10. I no in my heart hes cheated but he wont admire it which I so want from him. He tells here is sorry and to please not tell me. One day I looked at his phone that I pay for and saw a text saying I love you babe and he tried to make it sound like it was one of his kids baby mamas but it wasnt. Yes, it will be horrible to hear but, when it comes to unfaithfulness, its best to know everything. I know love can withstand the test if time. ive told him to stop because hes watching my heart break without realizing it. But little did he know I had the texts between the two of them proving that she wasnt crazy and that he was a liar. 7 different woman total BUT, multiple occasions with these woman over the course of the last 18 years. As I read your comments I think to myself YES! I love him with all my heart, but if there is no trust there is no life together. This sweet man, one that said i love you everyday, one that hugged me everyday, one that we had no sexual issues with..had a long distance girlfriend for the past 4years and hooked up with her twice. I feel as if you and your husband are in a long term marriage and you find out he cheated as a one night stand or in a completely other relationship you can go to therapy find out what went wrong and work on it and slowly gain back what you once had. The problem is that we had moved and my husband had a new job when we got divorced. The hook up well. In your case, thats not what I got from what you described. Hes not as interested in physical intimacy as he was before, He picks fights or starts arguments with you. Ive been ruminating and hurting my feelings with my thoughts for months. I started focusing on my daughters. I cant tell you if you should leave him, or if hes cheating. Im sure it 20 years old you are still attractive and can easily and will easily find somebody who is better. for the 2 of us but today when I spoke with him he told me to just look for a place for myself and wed see what happens. When asked he told that those were for some game they were going to play for party. Then from activity log I can see who he sent friend requests, who he deleted. Im such a bright educated woman yet Im so alone. The best 1st birthday present she received. When that isnt satisfying enough when the spark of that excitement wears off then it progresses to meeting in person, dinners, drinks, hotels, etc. You need to talk through your situation in person with someone who can help you see things clearly. Chances are, the frequency that they talk will start to fizzle out as she gets her stuff together. He denies it, but it is eating away at my heart and self-esteem. Who would have thought it would have taken getting divorced to wind up in such a situation? 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